Sixteen years ago today, I posted a “placeholder” announcement on wbjewelry.blogspot.com, saying I’d be launching a blog soon. Two days later, a distressed Britney Spears fled a photo shoot clad in borrowed designer goods — including one of my 18K gold poison rings — and the blog posts started pouring out of me. Over the years, as people’s creativity and traffic shifted to new social media networks including Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Vine, TikTok, and YouTube, I kept on blogging — although I eventually migrated to my own wendybrandes.com URL. Of course, I joined all the social networks too, but I always expressed myself best here, plus I liked knowing that the likes of Poodle and SpaceNook weren’t making any money off my blog content. I honestly preferred my content being unseen and a source of satisfaction to me alone (and maybe to Sheila from Ephemera) than playing the algorithm game.
My blogging habit survived the election of Trump and the rise of U.S. Christofascism; my resulting turn towards activism; and even the pandemic; but I fell quiet this year after the unexpected death of my friend Lola Mitchell, aka Gangsta Boo, this January 1. I have written many blog obituaries for creative legends I never knew, as well as for close friends, but Lola’s tribute is one that I’ve struggled with — writing and rewriting it — since the moment I got the news.
I did express my immediate shock and grief on Instagram, but being an old-school blogger at heart, I had to come here to make it official, and I couldn’t manage that in a way that I felt Lola deserved. Then I became hung up on the idea that if I hadn’t memorialized Lola, I had no business writing about anything here. Intellectually, I knew that was absurd, but emotionally was another story. Besides, I told myself, I’m busy! I’m actually writing a lot, what with the weekly action newsletter I’ve been doing for six years, plus the usual social media. But I have thought about this blog — and Lola, of course — every day, just trying to gather the wherewithal to make my return.
I was “THISCLOSE” to letting the anniversary of my 2007 blog launch slip through my fingers as my motivation. But I’ve been sitting at my computer attempting to download my Twitter archive before deleting that 15-year-old account due to Elon Musk‘s disastrous Twitter takeover, and that provided the extra inspiration I needed. Most of the content I share online — that we all share online — benefits white tech bros like Musk and Mark Zuckerberg. You might make a little money off your content but they’ll always make more. (Even the people who make the most money as content producers are mere peasants compared to the billionaire owners and corporations who make bank off their data.) Here, on this blog, the bros make as little as I do from my efforts! They can’t invite Nazis in or freeze my account on a whim. So I think it’s time for me to make a comeback, and I’ll finalize that perfect tribute to Lola as soon as I can. Right this minute, though, it’s time to finish this week’s action newsletter.
kaity says
So glad you’re still blogging! Happy anniversary! Also, condolences for the loss of your friend.
WendyB says
Thank you 🙂
Sheila (of Ephemera) says
Aw, thanks for the shout-out, Wendy! Yeah, I’m still freakin’ here! I signed up for IG and almost immediately got kicked off (apparently, being secure by logging off/out of my account was enough for them to call me a bot and give me the boot). Fuck ’em!
I though of you when I saw the news about Gangsta Boo – that is so sad. 🙁 I’m glad you got to do some work for her, and also had her friendship.
Congrats on 16 years! I passed 15 years in March.
Still wear your rings 3-4 times a week!!
WendyB says
You and I are gonna outlast all these social media platforms! xoxo
Lynette says
Way to go, WendyB!
WendyB says
Thanks xoxo
Queenzelda says
I’m really sorry for your loss.
Thank you also for keeping your blog – I’m outside all the social media sites for reasons you describe and privacy and my own general well being but I’ve always loved reading your thoughts and I miss the old days of blogging before the social medias grew into what they are. I loved discovering people’s blogs
and everything felt so much more authentic and real (and much less influencer spon con) but sadly most are now ghost towns in the virtual desert (if there is even and archive)
Stay well and peace and happiness!
WendyB says
Thank you for the condolences and comment! I am also sad so many of the old blogs are GONE gone. Not even an archive! All that hard work and the memories! Also big sites, like Television Without Pity. There was so much great content there.
Queenzelda says
Also, I know the right words to commemorate your friend will come to you when the moment is right
Xx