In the past couple of weeks, I’ve read posts by bloggers who have been persecuted because of their body shapes, the color of their skin, or other physical qualities beyond their control. Meanwhile, one blogger observed that the blogging world is like high school with its bitchy little cliques. Personally, I think the whole world is like high school. No matter where you are — whether it’s the office or a family reunion — there is probably going to be some insecure asshole with something stupid to say about you. To everyone who has been picked on, I offer some consoling words from ’80s pop star Adam Ant, the owner of my fantasy wardrobe. I’ve been watching his “Prince Charming” video lately and have decided that all self-worth messages should come with dudes in drag; shinys bare chests; a harp; a stuffed cat; and a Marlon Brando impression. Enjoy!
“Prince Charming,
Prince Charming,
Ridicule is nothing to be scared of.
Don’t you ever, don’t you ever,
Stop being dandy, showing me you’re handsome.
Don’t you ever, don’t you ever,
Lower yourself, forgetting all your standards.”
LOVE this (and not just because I’m mentioned)! Words to live by, Don’t you ever, don’t you ever, lower yourself, forgetting all your standards.” Upholding your standards is self-love at it’s greatest!
I agree, all self worth videos should include fabulous dudes in drag!
Love that song, and great message Wendy. Who knew back in the 80’s that Adam Ant would be so wise?
xoxo
Cyrillynn
Love the message this song gives. I’ve been the subject of ridicule for many years and it’s only made me stronger and kinder.
AH Adam. Yes. Great album too. And it might not surprise you to learn that I spent an incredible amount of time looking for the iridescent lip gloss that he wore in the “Stand and Deliver” video. (one of my very favorite Adam songs)
I coveted all his makeup!
My freshman year I actually went to school several times with the white stripe painted across my face. The whole look was: white stripe with scads of eyeliner, a “pirate” shirt, leather pants and ankle boots. Oh and a fedora 🙂
kindness is beautiful and compassion is glorious
someday there will be world peace and the word model will appear without a qualifier
(zangtoi is my word and it’s his birthday?)
mistakes happen ..
Reunion? Try funeral; when my stepmother Shirley died two weeks ago, I noticed on the card and bookmark listing the survivors that not only was my father not listed–in spite of the fact that he helped rear her children for 16 years after their father passed–but that I was not listed among the stepchildren Shirley had.
My father and I think it was my oldest stepsister (my youngest in that family doesn’t plan funerals, and my middle stepsister was already dealing with the loss of her husband’s father a few days earlier). Why?
She has a problem with me being genderqueer; not sure why Dad was omitted, though.
Then again, she’s the “white sheep” of the family compared to us. Go figure.
Cameron, I am so sorry to hear this! Pisses me off to be honest. Darling I am sending lots of love and support to you and your fam. Hugs!
Merci Anika. *hugs in return*
Great message. I tend to think of real life as high school.. because it really is like that. Only maybe more catty sometimes. (I went to a pretty decent high school)
What a stud.
Ah Adam such a cutie… One day I will shatter your illusions and tell you my naughty Adam Ant story! OTOH, it might endear him to you further!
XXX
Suzanne
I heard he was a sex addict. Please tell me you slept with him!
Poor Adam has endured enough public ridicule, I’ll tell you when I see you — it’s juicy!
XXX
Suzanne
Fuck the haters and cheers to this post!
I’ve had really good luck lately with no mean comments but I have someone out there in the interwebs that is trying to get to me- this one person in LA constantly searches for really obnoxious phrases to get to my blog like “fat ugly thrifteye” “overweight gross thrift eye” and hits search on google and I’m able to see that they’re using those keywords to get to my blog!! Luckily (perhaps not) they’ve yet to leave a comment…but I swear, some people are just living high school through their computers
Sadly, I have the same thing happening to me! Someone has been searching for my blog using “chubby” as their word of choice. And it makes me laugh. It’s childish and mean, and you know they’re only doing it to hurt you. Thus the reason I equate blogging to high school and have just decided to not care anymore. It’s not worth it. I hope you’re able to ignore these mean search phrases, because they’re not true.
Hi there-why do people act and behave this way on other peoples blogs?? Jealously is the only motivation that springs to mind, plus small mindedness-so unnecessary and sad in that is all they think of doing with their time 🙁
Great lines and I’m that video!! It was shot in a house in Suffolk and my friend cordelia’s sister was going out with him so we were extras in it!! Wish I could view it but I can’t.
No way!
And I’m sure you can find a version of it that you can see on YouTube, if this one isn’t working for you.
Alas, I don’t think we ever actually graduate from High School!
Oh yes! you are so right! I LOVE THIS! THANKS!
This song is always in my head when I am thinking about dating. Probably due to the “lower yourself, forgetting all your standards” line.
The Adam Ant song that gets me through annoying situations with crappy people downing me is “Friend or Foe.”
And yet another fun anti-spam word that matches the entry: Ladyboy – for those cross-dressing men in the video. 🙂
For some reason, blogs lately have all been delving into deeper territory. Must be something in the air. I have to say I like it.